I saw this in the New York Times yesterday and, frankly, I’m just not sure what to make of it.
How would I handle the situation? I’d get a nice gift for the baby and find any reasonable excuse to be out of/ away from the office that day.
I absolutely understand why the woman who wrote the letter is uncomfortable participating in the shower. You don’t have to be a betrayed spouse to feel awkward about celebrating someone who apparently had no qualms about ripping apart a family (or at least felt no need to hide it).